tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435907928209310248.post7126582367633650639..comments2023-07-26T13:30:56.015+01:00Comments on Annie's Rexia: Part #2Agnes Mildewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09851062037702982772noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435907928209310248.post-78463412249184225512008-09-17T20:12:00.000+01:002008-09-17T20:12:00.000+01:00anytime hun :) i'm always ready for a hug *hugs*anytime hun :) i'm always ready for a hug *hugs*Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01267643422775549142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435907928209310248.post-51814993865068371292008-09-17T05:41:00.000+01:002008-09-17T05:41:00.000+01:00Mars: Many thanks for your kind words. If I am eve...Mars: Many thanks for your kind words. If I am ever lucky enough to return to Dubai, I shall take you up on that offer of the hug!!<BR/><BR/>Karen: My ex takes great delight in being friendly with my mother who, having wished him dead, is now all over him like a rash, and thus sees the girls via him. There's nothing I can do about that, although both girls have told me that they don't like her very much and do avoid her as much as possible. #2 told her the other week that she was 'immature' for the way she was treating me. My mother didn't like that one!! I was very proud of #2 for having the moxie to stand up to her - she's only 11.Agnes Mildewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09851062037702982772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435907928209310248.post-36528118557621680842008-09-16T20:25:00.000+01:002008-09-16T20:25:00.000+01:00You can't prevent her from seeing the girls? I'd t...You can't prevent her from seeing the girls? I'd threaten that, and see the tables turn. I feel it is her fear that keeps her constantly invalidating you. She is a bully, pure and simple. The only way to take down a bully is to alienate them completely. Sad thing is, not everyone complies with that, and so the bully then gleans power from those sources. Cut off all contact, and see how freeing that is. It really didn't take much courage at all, cutting my mother off. It was a simple case of self preservation. Plus I was pregnant with my #1 at the time, and my blood pressure was rising alarmingly. So it was more for the safety of the baby, otherwise who knows how it would have played out. <BR/><BR/>Best of luck to you! You are a strong lady, don't pay any attention to that bitch. She's not worth it.Karen ^..^https://www.blogger.com/profile/05197114237324824217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435907928209310248.post-44172190485126654872008-09-16T19:39:00.000+01:002008-09-16T19:39:00.000+01:00i probably have my own set of problems that aren't...i probably have my own set of problems that aren't anywhere close through what you've gone through, and i find it hard to say anything except for a hug and some peaceful silence that accompanies just listening to another person. <BR/><BR/>i hope sharing all this makes you feel better.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01267643422775549142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435907928209310248.post-14605386753227536122008-09-16T14:50:00.000+01:002008-09-16T14:50:00.000+01:00Karen: What a sorry tale you relate yourself. How ...Karen: What a sorry tale you relate yourself. How horrific of your mother to treat you like that. And how brave of you to cut her out so completely...<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I wonder if, because certain girls feel neglected or abused by their mothers, that they don't ever feel whole and, ergo, complete. I know I don't always feel complete.<BR/>I tell my husband that he is the missing jigsaw piece in my puzzle; my soul mate; my better half. And indeed, he is...but to miss a Mother is a hardship for a woman, more so than for a man, I would suggest.<BR/><BR/>However, the deed is now done. She is currently using my daughters as pawns in her stupid game of chess and I confronted her a few weeks ago. The fur flew, believe you me, and then she attempted to speak behind my back to both Ian and my doctor.<BR/><BR/>I have to confess to the most immense fear I have ever felt in my life.<BR/><BR/>A person should never have to feel that from a parent.<BR/><BR/>And so now I know that she IS 'toxic' - coincidentally, I have used that word about her, too.<BR/><BR/>Great minds think alike...Agnes Mildewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09851062037702982772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435907928209310248.post-9373158303182474772008-09-16T13:22:00.000+01:002008-09-16T13:22:00.000+01:00Under such beautiful talent is always a well of pa...Under such beautiful talent is always a well of pain. You have the most refreshing sense of humor, a quick, sharp mind, and some of the most heartbreaking tales I've ever read. Some take me back to my own marriage. <BR/><BR/>Funny how we justify the abuse just because we fight back, huh? I'd just love to kick your ex anal asshole in the balls. Perhaps your mother would like a dose of his medicine? Sounds like she needs it. <BR/><BR/>I'm probably stepping out of bounds, but I feel that woman is one of the most toxic people in your life. I truly pray you have nothing to do with her. <BR/><BR/>After a life of foster homes and abuse therein, I found my mother. She gleefully told me of the times she tried to kill me as a two year old. I was a "brat" and never stopped crying or vomiting. I made a conscious choice to completely cut her out of my life after not having her in my life for so long. It wasn't difficult. You just come to a point and recognize that you get absolutely no good from that relationship, and the releif is amazing. <BR/><BR/>I never cut myself during my marriage, but there was a definite self destructive force within me. I can relate to the release of the knife. <BR/><BR/>Please keep this up. You will find that it is extremely cathartic, and a very good form of group therapy and validation. <BR/><BR/>You will also be helping those who are still stuck and can't get out. Thank you.Karen ^..^https://www.blogger.com/profile/05197114237324824217noreply@blogger.com